Fast forward to yesterday and I came across the young lady, now a woman, a survivor of family violence within the home. She has been subjected for over a decade, to extreme emotional, mental, financial and social abuse. One of the things she said was " I wished he had hit me, then I could have some tangible sign of the abuse". My heart broke, I was thinking "he has verbally and with his actions beaten you black and blue and taken every inch of the light within you". Still brings tears to my eyes every time I think of her words.
On reflecting, family violence does not discriminate. Our homes are supposed to be our safe-haven; for some of us they become a hell hole. 13 years ago, this young lady could not comprehend the cycle of violence, power & control because she could not recognise it, had not experienced it. Today, she relates to it like a second skin and now she no longer can fathom a equal, safe, respectful relationship.
This is the insidious nature of family violence, it shrinks our world to the perpetrator.
We as a community have to rise up, to shed light on this issue. Often people who are in it, dont recognise the signs, as they think this is the norm. It is not. There are numerous services that you can turn to for help, not only for you but also your family.
Love & hugs.