Continuing our series to shine the torch on the role of mothers (parents) and 'the lament of the wounded child' to tie into the long term impacts of childhood trauma on innocent children who often continue to suffer as adults at the hands of the parent or siblings.
Scapegoating is not limited to families, but often scapegoaters in families will move this SABOTAGE behaviour into their extended family, friends, their own children's lives, the workplace, schools, institutions constantly creating drama, conflict, grief and harm.
Be safe and have an awesome week.

Cross my heart, this was a tough section to write. Often I was in tears. It is heartbreaking to see grown men in despair with deep hurt and pain in their eyes. (Its even harder holding them in a place of taking responsiblity for their choices, as most of them (not all) are unaware of the impact of their actions, due to childhood experiences.
Our boys and men are precious, they deserve to be loved and respected.
Escpecially our young boys. Being a parent myself I am fully aware how kids can test the best of us, but I still strongly believe that you should NEVER HIT A CHILD. The psychological damage is horrendous. Another area of long term damage to kids is BULLYING at school and sports. Personally as a mother, if I suspected the slightest bullying I informed the school authorities and held them responsible to solve it.

I would get this E-course raising awareness of abusive and unhealthy relationships out quicker if I stopped editing, changing things and getting light-bulb moments!
For example, during the literature review, I came across this paper where Psychiatrist Eric Burne when he looked at the Drama Triangle he wanted the Victim in the top position because he felt that Victims caused most of the drama in unhealthy/ abusive relationships (oooouch!). However, the creator Stephen Karpman refused and put the perpetrator on top, stating that there are no victims in unhealthy or abusive relationships just ' victims who felt victimised'. So hopefully this image will make sense, that perpetrators see themselves as victims and cause the drama in unhealthy and abusive relationships.

In unhealthy or abusive relationships, often the wires get crossed. One partner takes on the role of a parent towards the other partner, whilst the other partner can react like a submissive or rebellious child within the relationship.
In a healthy relationship, both partners don't have roles. Both act like responsible adults who are independent, but feel safe and confident within the relationship.